Top 40 Wedding Tips
40 tips to help you plan your Big Day!
Start your wedding plans early!
Decide with your partner exactly what sort of wedding you would both like. Formal or informal? Intimate or extravagant?
Once you have decided on the venue for the ceremony, book it as early as you can. Popular dates during the summer, are booked anything up to a year in advance.
Budget... then arrange a meeting for everyone who will be contributing towards the cost involved in the initial discussion.
Consider buying some wedding day insurance. Many companies now offer packages to cover accidents prior to and on the big day itself - just in case.
Confirm and book the wedding reception venue as soon as possible.
You now need to compile a guest list and then decide on the type of catering your require. A lunchtime buffet works well when your guests are a mixture of young and old. It also keeps costs down. A formal sit-down meal is wonderful but is also your most expensive option.
Once you have found a suitable venue, book the date, time and exact room(s) you will need in writing. Ask for written confirmation in return.
If you would like menu cards for the centre of the tables ask your stationers to print them and place-names if you are having a sit-down reception. It would be a good idea to have two large table plans to post either side of the dining room.
Ask your parents to help with the seating plans to avoid any family upsets.
Now it is time to start looking for a wedding dress for the big day. You may be surprised how long it takes to make a gown, even one brought off-the-peg. The minimum notice for any gown is about eight weeks.
Wedding dresses are expensive so you could consider hiring the dress. You can hire a one-off designer gown for about the same as you would pay for an off-the-peg manufacturer's dress.
Go shopping with your bridesmaids to choose dresses that suit them all. If they are of varying ages, use a theme rather than asking teenagers to wear the frills and flounces that only look cute on the under-tens.
Sit down with your groom and work out what he will be wearing. Most men hire their wedding attire and this needs to be done about four weeks in advance.
Once you have chosen your dress, buy suitable bridal lingerie and take it to one of the fittings to ensure a perfect fit.
You now need to arrange for a photographers and a professional to video your big day.Interview them and ask to see examples of their work and only book someone who seems flexible and has lots off ideas. Get confirmation of the booking in writing.
Visit a number of florists but not on a Saturday when they are usually very busy. A good florist should work with you to create something to suit your individual style of wedding. Be wary of anyone who just shows you pictures of 'standard' bouquets.
Ask your florist to prepare two very special bouquets as a thank-you for both mums. These are traditionally presented by the groom during his speech.
Invitations need to be sent out about two months in advance. There are many different designs from the formal to the hand-made.
Book your wedding transport and confirm the exact model of car and the colour if it's part of your theme. Confirm booking in writing.
If you want your new surname on your passport to take on honeymoon, apply for the name change as soon as you can as this can take some time.
Start shopping around for the best deals for your honeymoon. Room upgrades, champagne, flowers and a free dinner are readily available for honeymooners.
Once the honeymoon destination has been decided upon ask about necessary visas and make an appointment with your doctor for any inoculations.
Go shopping with your groom for your wedding rings. It is a nice idea to have the rings engraved inside. Even just your initials and the wedding date is very romantic.
For the reception you will have to decide on the type of music you would like. If you want to have live music, listen to tapes from potential groups and try to hear them live at least once.
If you ar having a live band, remember they need to take regular breaks so you will need some kind of entertainment to fill in the gaps. Ask your venue about facilities for taped music.
Visit your baker or ask your caterers to recommend someone to make the wedding cake.
Save about half the cost of your cake by getting a clever mum or friend to make the basic cake then take it along to a professional to have it iced and decorated.
Ring around all the local department stores and ask to be sent details of their wedding gift list services.
Ask someone in your family to be in charge of the guest list, ticking off names as and when they accept. Your venue will probably want you to confirm final numbers a week or two in advance.
Obtain permission from your venues to throw confetti. If this is not permitted, tell your guests to bring rice, which the birds will eat, or rose petals.
A month before the wedding visit your venue when it is not being used and plan your room decorations. Flowers everywhere are expensive and two well placed displays can be just as effective.
Book your first night accommodation. Check what 'extras' are included in their honeymoon package, like a chauffeur-driven car to drive you to the airport the following morning.
Buy a supply of disposable cameras and put a couple in the centre of each table at your reception. This gives your guests something to do and you should get a supply of wonderful behind-the-scenes informal pictures to supplement your album.
You need to buy gifts for the best man, ushers and bridesmaids. Get the gifts inscribed with your names and your wedding date.
Have a trial-run at the hairdressers a week or two before the big day. Take along your headdress and veil and even a polaroid camera to make recreating your wedding hairstyle easier.
It would be a good idea to pack your honeymoon cases and take them to your first night hotel the day before the wedding.
Nominate one of your bridesmaids or a close friend to pack up your wedding attire following the reception and store it for you until after the honeymoon.
Assemble a small bag with your wedding day essentials, like a hanky, a lipstick, an aspirin, a comb, hair grips and safety pins.
Smile, relax and above all have a wonderful day!
